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Stop thinking you’re not supposed to be afraid. If you’re human (and I’m assuming you are), you’re always going to have fears. But if you acknowledge the fear and tell it, “Ok, I hear you, but you’re not going to control me. Go sit over there while I do this,” you’ll be amazed by what you have the cajones to actually do.

Reframe what’s scaring you. By thinking of what’s standing between you and your goals in a different way, you’ll be able to move through your fear and onto some really good stuff. In my biz, networking with people I don’t know is really important. Instead of being afraid that they won’t want to help me or that I’ll have nothing of value for them, I tell myself that I get to meet someone new and see if we have anything in common.

Play the “What’s the Worst That Can Happen?” Game. Whatever is scaring you, take it to the most horrific conclusion, and you’ll almost always find the worst thing that can happen is really not all that bad.

Ask yourself what it will feel like if you don’t go after your goals and nothing changes. Even journal about it. If you want something badly enough, any fear of failure you have will be outweighed by your fear of being able to one day say “What if?”

Recognize that, as one of my favorite quotes teaches, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Embrace the nerves, the fear, the discomfort. I’ve come to know that when something scares the bejeezus out of me, it means I’m really onto something.