People tell me all the time some variation of, "I have all these dreams, but I can never find time to work toward them." If you've said this in the past, or are currently saying this to yourself or others, keep reading. First, I must ask you what are the dreams you're not getting to, and how will you feel, what will your life look like in a year or three or five if you don’t start making them a Priority?
It’s all about what we Focus on, because whatever we focus on becomes bigger. The key to harnessing our secret weapon of Focus is learning to be less reactive to the things in our lives that drain our energy and pull us further and further away from what we really want. I created a process that I take myself through and the tens of thousands of people I get to coach, that forces us to identify exactly where our Focus should be--on the things we really care about.
Have you ever taken the time to figure out what your Priorities are? If not, that’s the first step. Priorities are the things that are so important to you right now--the non-negotiables in your life--that not serving them simply is not an option. Whether they include making healthy choices every day, being present for the most important people in your life or growing a successful career or business, you have to know what you want to Focus on.
Then, the next step is to set Goals that serve your Priorities, instead of a bunch of arbitrary ones that you think you should go after or that others tell you are important. These Priorities and Goals give you a roadmap of where to spend your time. And if something you’re doing doesn’t serve your Priorities and Goals, then you don’t do it. I teach you exactly how to do this entire process in my book, You Can Have It All, Just Not at the Same Damn Time, along with how to start and stick to habits that will help you achieve your Goals, how to show up authentically in all parts of your life (because it's your superpower), and how to protect yourself from emotional drains, BS stories in your head and relationships that are no longer serving you.
The reality is, we often procrastinate doing the hard stuff that actually makes us closer to our dreams because, well, it’s hard. And the things that distract us are often a heck of a lot easier. But when you’ve invested the time to figure out what you want, you’ll be more likely to have laser-like Focus on those things and a willingness to do them, even if they’re hard and scare you.
So if you're focusing on a whole bunch of stuff that isn't really important to you, not getting to the Goals you say you want and complaining about not living the life you want, isn't it time you took a good look at everything you're Focusing on?